One of the hardest aspects of the dating world is when you face rejection: someone deciding they are not interested in and do not want to date you (or no longer want to date you). It is very easy to take the rejection hard and take it personally. We often wonder why we were truly rejected. Because often the one rejected either gives no explanation (they “ghost” you), gives a false explanation, or only gives a partial explanation (where there is “more to the story”). Occasionally the rejecting person actually does give a full, honest answer for why they are rejecting you—although that can sometimes be hard to trust. In any event, learning that the person you were interested in and hopeful build a relationship with has declined the opportunity hurts and is frustrating. “No thanks”, they say. “I do not want to go out with you anymore”. So how can you not take that personally? How can you best handle the pain? Ideas and Suggestions to Handle Rejection: *Consider any notable mistakes you may have made. If you did make any reasonable mistakes, don’t beat yourself up over it. Just note what you did (or failed to do) and use this as a learning experience. Make a mental note of what happened and how you will approach a similar situation like this in the future in a better or different way. Be kind and patient with yourself. Putting yourself down over it will not help. You live and you learn. Consider this a valuable experience and move on. *Consider any notable mistakes they may have made: it is not uncommon for the other person to reject or break up with you because of problems or issues from their end. And sometimes in response to their issues or problems they may do a pre-emptive action and decide to not want to date you, for fear that later you would be the one rejecting them (because of their issues). If this is the case, consider it a blessing and a favor that they rejected you before you had to break up with them in the near future. Consider this a “bullet dodged” and time and hassle saved.
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