A note from Caroline on the following blog: as a moderate feminist, I don't agree with the anti-feminist message but I do firmly and passionately believe society needs to move past objectifying women. In fact, I believe that idea is entirely feminist. Anyway, otherwise enjoy.
There is a YouTube channel called “Better Bachelor." On this video channel, a guy nicknamed “Joker” talks about the various challenges of dating, marriage, and relationships today from the rarely given perspective of men. This channel may be more slanted or edgy than some would care for, so know that if you choose to watch any of these videos. However, some important messages are often shared on these videos that have caught my attention and have paralleled real-life issues I’ve seen repetitively in the therapy office. One particularly disturbing idea he often discusses is this basic modern trend: today, girls and women are largely taught that the only main contribution they need to offer in a relationship and marriage is to just…show up and look good. The man is basically expected to give and do the rest: be nice, interesting, giving, patient, a good communicator, and listener, be entertaining, provide money, and so on.
Now, I know that this idea and attitude towards relationships only relates to some women in the church. However, I have heard some of these ideas and attitudes creeping into church relationships and marriages which concerns me. For those women who are truly giving, caring, and others oriented, you are the exception and have not bought into this media and feminist-driven trend.